Spicing up your marriage entails the obvious. Travel, discover and explore. A strong marriage is about growing together. It entails planning weekends away or a staycation, that's a holiday spent at one's home, making day trips to local attractions and upping your intimacy game. But according to Ambika Anand, there is more you can do on a daily basis to attain nuptial bliss because a marriage begins on the day of your wedding but lasts (hopefully) for a lifetime.
1. Have a meal together as a family
Have a meal together as a family every day even if it's for 10 minutes because the happiest conversations and memories are built around meals. If you have more time on hand, try cooking a meal together.
2. Stick to your commitments
Whatever you commit to doing on day one of your marriage is what you need to do during the rest of your years together. Don't set the wrong precedence with your spouse or your in-laws. For instance, if you don't intend to cook meals or wear a mangal sutra or see your in-laws every day or take on the role of a local guide to the in-laws' out of town relatives, then don’t commit if you don’t intend to do it religiously!
3. Love and career can go hand-in-hand
If you and your spouse are professionals and have a career in different fields- don't underestimate the power of a loved one, like your spouse giving tips on how to navigate through the corporate rat race. Make your partner an active part of your career expedition.
4. Furnish your house according to your preference as a ‘couple’
Your house has to be your safe haven. It has to reflect your mindset as a couple. If as a couple you like to read, travel or socialise then let your house reflect the same. Let your abode speak your language so you can come home, rest, regroup and rejuvenate together.
5. Communication is the key to a happy relationship
Don't be afraid to ask for whatever you need to be in a happier place. If you require respect, intimacy, time together, money, just ask. Give credence to your needs and speak up because your partner is not a mind reader. Don't fear ‘no’ as an answer. It's not a defeat. Its open communication and you will sleep better.
6. Work on building your friendship with your partner
In a marriage, sometimes, you can live with little less love but a bond of friendship is essential. Work on building your friendship with your partner. Keep your phone aside and do an activity together. It could be cycling, walking, or visiting an art gallery. You can also spend time with his/her parents and siblings to build a stronger connect and know more about your spouse.
7. No, expressing love is not cheesy!
Practice expressing unconditional love. It’s about prioritizing your partners needs and if that’s too much to handle then start small. Write some loving and meaningful notes and station them at some unexpected places like the bedside drawer or inside their shoe or the gym bag! If that’s too complicated then just send a text!
8. Maintain the much needed personal space
If you are a working woman keep working. Having a career gives you the opportunity of being a provider and not always being on the receiving end. Having your own space will make you value the time you spend together. In addition, it will give you a variety of subjects to talk about!
9. Shopping can bring you closer
Go shop together or buy a surprise gift for one another. It does not need to be a Porsche Panamera but something simple and essential like a table lamp or running shoes would also work!
10. Spend quality time together
Don’t play the cool card. Remember your partner thought you were cool and that’s why he/she married you. Invest time in your marriage rather than running off constantly with your friends for a vacation or drinks to show your partner that you are cool and have a life. Well, your life partner needs to be valued. And if you fail to do so, you know, what goes around comes around, sometimes, exponentially.