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While the months leading to your wedding might have been quite stressing full, but it all boiled up to shape one of the happiest days of your lives, so it was totally worth it but other than that everything is initially like a paradise in your relationship, it is full of love, romance, and passion. However things are bound to finally start to settle down and the haze of desire will lift, the fun honeymoon-ey days will come to an end.
Life butts in and you will have to face the reality at some point or the other. True, adjustment period sucks, it hits you like a freight train and is full of awkwardness and is hella annoying. But you will have to adjust and come to terms with new challenges life throws your way. So Bandbaaja.com has listed five challenges that all newlyweds face and ways to overcome them.
1. Personal space and Individuality
Now that you are a married couple you have started to spend the majority of your time with each other this can be pressurizing on the newbie marriages. All the little things you used to find cute and adorable now gets on your nerves due being together all the time. It very important to learn to give personal space, it gives the gap for each to grow into their own unique individuals instead of one blended couple type personality only which will lead to suffocation and the doom of the marriage.
2. Preconceived expectations
Everyone has expectations regarding anything and everything especially so in the case of marriage life. You and your better half are bound to come into this new set up with some preconceived notions of how things will be like, this can be extremely stressful, overwhelming and burdening on newlyweds. Remember communication is the key, feel free to speak out if you have something and achieve a compromise, with time the strain will lift off.
3. Financial concerns
Money is a sensitive issue for all couples more so if one earns significantly more than the other. However, the only way to go about is to sit down and have a mature adult discussion without entangling your emotions/feelings in it. Find a balance that works for the both of you and try to figure out the best way to deal with this, also keep a game plan in mind for when arguments related to money, if were to occur in the future.
4. Defining roles
After you tie the knot one of the hurdles one faces is the role descriptions. Who is the breadwinner, how to work and domestic life is to be balanced, division and sharing of household chores, career-related decisions and above all priorities are required to be set? Come out with a plan to deal with the situation, develop a voice of reason that will be able to override your emotions and make rational decisions without any ego.
5. The In- laws and lifestyle adjustments
No matter how understanding and sweet of an in-law family you have, some changes in your lifestyle will have to be made, from small to gigantic depending upon your situation. Moreover dealing with the in-laws is always a tricky subject and feels like walking on egg shells, one wrong step and drama will blow up on your face. Set some boundaries that you are completely unwilling to cross while being fair and compromising on all the other topics for a healthy relationship with your in-laws.
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