Ah! This is yet another one of those questions with no real answer but yet somehow making the wrong choice can end up in a mess. Is it okay to invite an ex to your wedding? Maybe or maybe not, it is totally possible that everything goes smoothly and everyone acts like mature adults and enjoy the wedding without any of the old romantic history rearing its ugly head but it can just as easily end up in a horrendous manner with jealousies, sadness and resentment. And while we cannot truly give a straight answer to this problem or in this case we cannot make this decision for you because the solution to this question is very subjective and also depends on the situation, however what we can do is to help you along the way with some pointers to ensure you make the right choice for you.
Okay let’s just get real for a moment, no matter how much one likes to think that the break-up was mutual and ended on good terms, in reality, that kind of thing is very very rare, there is always a teeny tiny bit of resentment or bitterness or maybe even an inkling of feelings still left by at least one person in the former couple. I mean look at the situation of Ross and Rachel on the show ‘Friends’, Ross struggled with the dilemma of inviting Rachel to his wedding and she was one of his best friends and don’t we all know how badly that ended. And even if it does end on an okay note the very best you can do is be casual friends which do not exactly validate inviting your ex to your wedding. Also why on earth would you want to unleash that kind of awkwardness on your wedding? I mean it’s not just weird for you imagine how bloody awkward it would for you would be and your ex or their partner if they have any and even on your family * shudder* nope just no. The best solution is to not to invite your ex because why deal with even the possibility of stuff going downhill, better safe than sorry. But despite all this you might still want to invite your ex to your wedding if you are friends with him/her but the matter of whether you should is completely up for a debate and the best solution to this conundrum is to discuss this with your fiancée.
There is, however, some very important questions you need to pose to yourself and tackle them, before bringing up this topic to your fiancée. Firstly, the most important question is how you really feel towards them. If you still feel a magnetic pull towards them, even if it is only a trickle, abort the mission because you definitely do not want that kind of aura around on your big day. Second, is it absolutely necessary to have him/her attend it? You can have the most mature and well-adjusted relationship in the world with your fiancée but even one small bad thing can rattle your rock solid relationship, seeing as this is most certainly a sensitive topic. If you decide it is then to prepare yourself for the discussion and go ahead.
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