Ha, haven’t we all been there? Fights, arguments, disagreememnts - all are unwanted parts of a marriage. And, another fact that is common to all the couples is that when the storm settles down after a heated fight, bouts of guilt and remorse start sweeping in.
So the next time you have an argument with your partner about - "why were you not answering my call / Why did you use my toothbrush” etc., just keep in mind the following 'fight hacks' which will help you prevent, tackle and sort out all the issues with you partner.
1. Don’t resort to the 'divorce threat'
However tempting it may sound to say, “I don’t think it’s working out, let’s just break up," please do not utter these words unless you really mean to break up. Do you really think that if you cannot handle a small argument it should be the end of a relationship?
2. Don’t take digs at each other
You are mad at your partner, understandable! You want to shout, and throw tantrums, and cry to show your anger, umm…still understandable. But all this doesn’t validate taking disses or passing mean comments just to have an upper hand in the argument. That is disrespectful and puts you in the spot instead.
3. Don’t deviate to past events
I know, that’s a female specific, and almost an established rule of any conversation where a female is involved. But it’s a passe, girls. Why prove to men that we remember each and every thing about them or related to them even if it was so unpleasant for us? Why not rather pretend to not remember everything and ask them to remind you. Yes, reverse psychology is the key. Men freak out when we remember everything. But, they simply can’t deal with the fact that we have missed out on or simply forgotten something about them.
4. Agree with them when they are right
Just because you’re representing different flags during the argument doesn’t mean that you won’t agree to each other even when it would be the right thing to do. Show some sportsmen spirit people, fight with dignity. This one goes a long way in winning you respect and admiration.
5. Apology may not be important, but pampering may be
Well, always! You fought – now you are not talking – you are wondering if they are missing you too – you want to call/text, but your mind speaks, “I won’t apologise, it wasn’t even my fault…if he/she cant, then why should I” – This is just so common to all of us! Okay, then you may or may not apologise, but at least, talk and tell them you have been missing them. It makes up for the apology-drill.
6. The post-fight intimacy
Ever tried this? Works the best, right? Making out to make up is probably one of the best solutions ever and we are sure you agree with this. So, when you need to end the awkwardness post-argument, just channel the heat of the argument into the heat of passion, and this won’t be regretted.
7. The golden rule: Do not drag any fight to the next day
Talk to your partner and establish this in the preamble or whatever you have for your relationship. Never-ever drag last night’s argument to the next morning. Yes, it can be weird to behave as if it never happened but the idea is to acknowledge what happened and yet not identify it as an upheaval in your love story.
Let bygones be bygones.
And lastly, please remember that fights are inevitable in every relationship. Be it with your parents, siblings or partner. They don’t have to indicate the onset of doomsday! Instead, understand why the other one is upset and think of ways to build a better level of understanding with them.
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