- Sumanya Sehgal
Elder M. Russel Ballard has very poignantly quoted, “The joy of motherhood comes in moments. There will be hard times and frustrating times. But amid the challenges, there are shining moments of joy and satisfaction”. Yes, definitely, marriage is one bond wherein you experience the warmth of love and affection, wherein you feel that you and your flaws have been accepted the way they are but when your little bundle of joy joins in, trust me, it is the best feeling ever.
There was not a time when I and my husband quarrelled on any sort of an issue. We were always those cosmopolites who just loved to go for adventure tours wherever it would be. Thinking of having a baby was just too mainstream for us! It was when I expected, I knew what I was missing on. I had never seen that side of my husband, like never. Moments when he used to ask me whether I was okay or feeling nausea, whether I had my breakfast on time or not. This was never the case before. Either we were too engaged in booking our next tour or we did not know how to express and chose to be free from asking each other all these questions.
Do we guys ever think that in the process of urging for ‘freedom’ or ‘space’ or ‘independence’, we have started to neglect the power of expression?We need to tell the other person even not through words then through the gestures that we love them and if we do then we need to enquire for their well-being and not to think that if he/she would want to have, he/she will have it, why to ask.
Why didn’t we ask each other if we were okay before expecting this baby? Why didn’t we make sure that we have done our breakfasts or not before having this baby? I think we were too free. We were free from our bag of responsibilities, free from fulfilling our roles. It is not about society it is about us, you and me, in general.
I think getting on adventures just made us grow together but having a child made us evolve, as a human, as an individual. I would not mind having my second child if my husband keeps changing his diapers and bathing him while singing songs because I now know that is what I was missing, this is what I wanted to have, our baby is what we both wanted to have.
This is to all the girls who are expecting or would be someday: You should not miss out on this beautiful blessing of God. This is pure happiness and the baby’s first step holding your fingers is just not too mainstream.
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